Christmas can be stressful at the best of times, and the same can apply to other feast days, festivals and celebrations. Needing to spend time with an elderly parent or relative in a care home as well can add to the pressure.
You may be wondering how to make things special for your relative at Christmas – and how to manage everything else too.
If you’re in this situation – or you have been before – we’d love to hear your tips. To kick off, here are some suggestions you’ve shared with us before…
- If you can’t visit your relative on Christmas Day itself, have Christmas at the care home on a different date. Depending on your relative’s state of health, they may not realise it’s not the actual day, and yet you can still show your love just the same.
- Have Christmas lunch at the care home with your relative – or take some festive food in with you and ask the home if you can set up a table in a quiet corner just for your family. As well as being nice for your relative, by eating with them at the care home, however difficult, you can observe mealtimes and notice how much assistance your relative needs.
- Where possible, involve your relative in planning something or preparing something for Christmas, however small. For example, if they can still hold a pen, it may simply be signing a couple of cards for old friends (and it doesn’t necessarily matter what your relative’s signature actually looks like). Or perhaps you could help them wrap a gift for another member of your family. Playing an active role, even if only briefly, may help them retain some sense of purpose and value. And if these are all things they used to do, it may help trigger some good memories.
- Take a Christmas gift for the care home staff; it can be a nice way to maintain good will, and some staff may be working all through the holiday.
- If it’s difficult to think of what to give a relative in a care home as a gift for Christmas, you could make up a book of old photographs to help trigger memories, or pull together some images of their favourite holiday destinations.
Do you have some tips and ideas to share with other families? Leave your comments below.